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5 Questions to Ask Yourself That Will Reshape Your Mind
Ask yourself these and your life will change.
Sometimes, a question is far more powerful than a statement.
Instead of telling you what to do, it forces you to stop and think—like a koan. And when done correctly, it can lead to new ways of thinking and, even better, new ways of being.
Here are five questions I regularly ask myself that will force you to take an honest look at yourself and gain clarity and self-awareness.
The more you ask them, the more they will improve your life.
“Am I in denial?”
This question shatters your world.
Rather than thinking everyone else is wrong, it forces you to consider —even for a millisecond— that it could be you who is wrong, not anyone else.
“The first principle is that you must not fool yourself and you are the easiest person to fool.”
— Richard Feynman
What we resist the most is usually what’s most true. The reason why is that we are terrified to see the truth — and as a result, uncover our blindspots, deepest flaws, or misguided beliefs that might be plaguing our lives at this very second.
Ultimately, you might not be in denial, but at least you’re becoming self-aware first. Then, you can take action knowing that it’s coming from a place of honesty and composure.
The result? Better solutions, happier relationships, less drama, and better mental health and peace of mind.
“Am I projecting?”
This question will do wonders for your friendships and relationships.
Projection is something we’re all guilty of, yet we’re almost always oblivious about it.
“…it implies that those things which most disturb us in other people are really unrecognized aspects of ourselves. This idea is usually met with resentful, bitter opposition. Yet, as Freud pointed out, violent denial is the very mark of projection; that is, if we didn’t deny it, we wouldn’t be projecting! The fact remains, however, that “it takes…
